Sometimes people ask us how it is that our children are so cool. One of my colleagues once said that it najgrzeczniejsze children, who knows. Readers of this blog, those who know us well know that in our house there is no discipline. Quite the contrary. As it so it is that our children are calm, joyful, not aggressive, not destructive, etc, etc? I do not like to define polite and try not to use it, but no abbreviated terms are well-behaved ...

The sentences are different, and probably in every opinion is a grain of truth. One of them says that their behavior is conditioned by a gentle temperament and gender. There is also a theory that relaxed parents have relaxed children. More than this we both work at home, so the children are almost always with us, we have for them a lot of time and patience. Briefly describe what motivates educating our girls, because in our opinion this is key.

Firstly, in many situations we are trying to proverbially originate in the skin of our daughters. Secondly, we treat them and their needs equally with ours. Third shine example. Fourth allow learn from mistakes. Fifthly, we assume that children behave and react as best they can in a given situation. We are not so hard to show their love in every moment, even the difficult emotionally. Of course we are not perfect and sometimes we have to break these rules, but in most cases this is hold. We understand that your child may have a bad day, you may not like something, you may not have to feel like something may be something to hurt or want something different than we have at the moment. We accept crying. We try not to force anything, do not scream, do not blackmail. We decided that respecting them, teach them respect for others. So we talk, we explain some of their decisions, treats and conclude with Kalina compromises. We ask her about the sentence in matters that concern them and agree with her decision, and when it is about something, please accept refusal. We trust her intuition, under the influence of many times we changed our plans, but it worked out good for all of us. Do not admonish her, unless someone gets hurt. Not sparing her unless she asks for help. We try not to match children to our ideas and expectations and treat them as we would want to be treated. And when I look and listen to my daughter, it's just making sure that we are going in the right direction. Today we enjoyed the place of dress, in which the earlier you clothed (usually dress lands somewhere in the middle of the room) and said in my direction thank you sweetie :)


PS There is another opinion, which is very close to me. Maybe just Jacek doing cool kids: D